Well, it’s already March 1. Who, what, when, where, why, how? Doesn’t matter because you must keep going! As we are about 90 days into the new year, many of you have more than likely stuck to your goals and a lot of us may have slipped a little bit - but that’s totally OK. Some days, weeks, or months may have not gone as planned but each day is a new day to get back on track. Anytime I feel like I’m not “doing enough” I like to write down what I have done so far, and what I want to improve. Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable = GROWTH.


Starting small can truly make a significant difference in your results - whatever the goal may be. I personally have fitness and health goals that I want to accomplish. I also know that drinking water is one of the most important things to do to keep your overall wellbeing on track. My “small goal” is to drink more water daily. That was out of my comfort zone. I have written down the benefits of consuming healthier things which has kept me going down the right path. Starting small can apply to literally anything you want or willing to work for. It can be as simple as purchasing a domain name of what you desire your blog or business to be, picking up a book when you lay in bed at night instead of your phone, or even as simple as signing up for that workout class you’ve been putting off. Do SOMETHING each day. You can even just start by writing down 3-5 things each day or week that you want to get done and put your plans into action. That one thing will just bring you closer and closer to the outcomes that you desire. I just started listening to books. For a while I never thought that I’d have the “interest” to listen to a book because I simply didn’t have time. SMH. Those are limiting beliefs. I shifted my mindset and started listening to Manifest Now by Idil Ahmed. Man, that book is truly mind changing. I definitely recommend listening to it on Audible or purchasing a physical copy. You’ll start to realize how much you can make positive changes in your life by simply changing the way you think.


Because convenience is comfortable, right? We must think beyond this. You have to want to create a plan of action for pushing the boundaries on what you think is possible. I know that almost everyday I can choose to be a victim of convenience or I can choose to go above and beyond for myself. I wake up and read a scripture or two and then I get my day started. I choose to have a mindset that motivates me to not be mediocre for the day. You did not wake up this morning to be mediocre! You can push beyond convenience by simply waking up an hour earlier (or a few) than you normally do to get something else done before you carry on with your day. I scheduled myself for a 6:30 am workout this morning! That’s something that I have never done because I used to think - heck, I could still be getting one more hour of sleep instead of going to a workout. That was mediocre thinking. These muscles aren’t going to tone themselves though, sis! After I left my one hour workout I thought, “what else can I do to be great for myself today?” That wasn’t convenience, that was pure motivation. One simple change in your routine is way more powerful than you think. All it requires is just effort.


I GOT THIS! YOU got this! Holding yourself accountable is another key to breaking through your comfort zone. You can tell a family member or close friend what you are trying to do and 9 times out of 10 you won’t have to remind them to hold you accountable. They just do because they love you! My mom and my friend Shay hold me accountable with the smallest things. Shay simply reminds me to email someone or simply post on social media. Having an accountability parter definitely can help, but it isn’t 100% necessary obviously because you’re your own person and can do what you want to do. Let’s say for me, I want to start a new series on my blog with styling videos called “———————-——-” boom! I put it out there! Once you share it with someone or say it out loud - make yourself DO IT. Take baby steps. Smaller steps can easily de-sensitize yourself to the feelings of anxiety. Earlier in January I wrote sticky notes on my mirror with affirmations that I repeat out loud daily. Me making sure I start my day this way is one way that I hold myself accountable. Do you see how simple stepping out of your comfort zone can be? I don’t like producing the same results, I want more and I want better! No one is going to do that but ME. YOU for you. Sometimes even changing your atmosphere can help with your results. Instead of working at home in your comfort zone, go to a public place or coffee shop to send those emails, etc. You didn’t drive over there for nothing….so get it done in a different environment. Holding myself accountable with my actions has driven to me create another source of income with my blog. And that, I am proud of. What’s holding you back from stepping out of your comfort zone? How are you going to put new actions into motion for improved success?





Before I began writing this post I sat at my computer desk staring at the screen, fiddling with my nails and hands, and scratched my head trying to think of where to even start. This felt like homework but I really want to start incorporating wellness and more positivity to my blog. Balance for sure starts with having a handle on various elements of your life. When you're mentally in a good place, you should feel calm, clear-headed, grounded, and of course, motivated. The elements in life that require the most balancing can be divided into two categories: internal and external. Often, most people focus on one more than the other. 

Internal - Mind: Challenging yourself intellectually vs. creating opportunities for your mind to rest. Heart: Giving love vs. receiving love. Health: Eating, drinking, exercising, vs. resting and treating yourself to extra things you probably don't need.

 External - Work:  Pushing yourself to achieve goals vs. seeing the bigger picture and enjoying the ride (mostly me) Social: Satisfying your social desires (going to that party that you really didn't want to go to) vs. taking the time that you really need for yourself. Family: Fulfilling your familial responsibilities vs. creating healthy boundaries. Fun: Making time for things you enjoy doing vs. making sure don't overdo it. 

Both are pretty positive but if you put all of your energy towards just one, something that is intended to be positive can end up being unfavorable. I personally tend to focus a lot on things that need to be done. Like work (or my job) and that's where most of my energy goes during the week. I used to struggle with taking extra steps to better my personal life that would be fulfilling to me. I would get home from work sometimes and not put in the extra work for my future. When I was stuck in that rut, I didn't have much of a positive attitude at work like I had before. This is really important to me. When I relaunched my blog in October, that was a huge accomplishment. I noticed that when I practiced prioritizing "balance" I saw the benefits. Having a positive mindset can really change how you balance the good in your life. That being said; here are 8 quick tips to help you create and maintain a well-balanced lifestyle.

1. Set Goals:

Make a list of which ways you desire to balance your lifestyle. Decide what you want to accomplish to help you get there. Write these goals down and look at your list daily. Try your hardest to work towards those one day at a time. 

2. Plan Tasks:

Make another list of daily, weekly, and monthly tasks that you feel that you need to do to help you achieve each of these goals. Block out certain times of your day (each day) to spend time doing at least one thing that will help you get closer to scratching more goals off your list. If you have a really restricting schedule (which that should be no excuse) start your day by waking up an hour earlier to get something done. 

3. Acknowledge:

Take some time to look at your state of mind, your life, and how you're feeling. Be true to yourself and notice the areas of your life that you're neglecting. 

4. Examine:

Figure out if you're leaning more toward an internal or external focus, or if there are some areas within each category that you would like to be more balanced. 

5. Prepare:

Can you figure out what inner thoughts you might have that could be keeping you from sticking to your plans? You need to throw all of the negative self talk, doubts, and worries out the window. See ya later!

6.  Plan:

Decide that you want to take your goals in life seriously and stay on track with working towards them. It takes time and a lot of effort to create better habits and patterns. 

7. Connect:

Have someone in your life that can help you challenge yourself, and that will celebrate your smallest accomplishments with you. Everyone needs someone that can help you keep motivated, supported, and focused during the harder times. 

8. Empower:

Be kind to others and be kind to yourself. I try to start my day each day by reading a list of positive affirmations (and my daily devotional from the Bible) say those positive affirmations out loud. Multiple times if you feel like it. Here's a good one -->  "CREATIVE ENERGY SURGES THROUGH ME AND LEADS ME TO NEW AND BRILLIANT IDEAS."

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Which of these tips spoke to you the most? I hope this post helped you out some. We all need to read a little positivity more often and I am so glad that you stopped by! Thank you so much for even clicking the link to my post. You are very much appreciated. <3

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